Micro-cheating is the latest word to describe infidelity and poses the question: are you really having an affair? And if you’re not really having an affair, is your behaviour such that it is leading up to one? As a relationship therapist a large proportion of my work is helping clients deal with the, often destructive, … Read More
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I see many couples online whose relationship is in trouble following an affair. Often these couples are unsure if they want to continue with the relationship. They’re not sure if or how trust can be rebuilt. Those who decide to split up often need help figuring out how to end the relationship, while still co-parenting … Read More
Taking the long view is ultimately better for mental health as ‘We Aren’t Built to Live in the Moment’. This excellent article by Martin Seligman and John Tierney argues that we are not prisoners of the present and the past because we are able to imagine and shape our futures. In doing so we can … Read More
Viewing rejection as helpful is not a perspective that readily springs to mind. This article, which was on the opinion page of the Guardian some time ago, is worth a read. It concludes with the statement: “A rejection doesn’t mean you failed. It means you tried. Try again“.
Take the plunge, make the big change, say no to the status quo-a new year is about to begin! Fear breeds inertia, whereas taking risks will boost your confidence and forward momentum, Oliver Burkeman says. To new clients: I now work online via zoom. Yes, I made a big change! True that it’s at a … Read More
I specialise in online solution-focused brief therapy working with couples, individuals, and families from around the world. Counselling online enables me to see clients from many countries and to keep my fees low. Solution-focused therapy – why clients come to my online counselling practice Clients come to see me because they are looking for a … Read More
One of my specialisms is helping clients who have anxiety. Anxiety, phobias, panic attacks and depression often work hand in glove. These are sometimes set off by a current life event or can be more long term with no obvious reason for their onset. When anxiety starts to affect life negatively and goes beyond the ordinary … Read More
Happy new year. Don’t break the chain: I thought you may be interested in this idea of inch by inch progress. It was advice given by Jerry Seinfeld to a comic who was asking for tips on how to make it in the industry. I was struck by how well it fits with the solution-focused approach … Read More
Work-life balance is a frequent topic of concern raised by clients in therapy sessions. This is an excellent article which asks if the work-life balance is a myth. It puts forward a different way of considering the subject.