Are you really having an affair?

Micro-cheating is the latest word to describe infidelity and poses the question: are you really having an affair?  And if you’re not really having an affair, is your behaviour such that it is leading up to one?

As a relationship therapist a large proportion of my work is helping clients deal with the, often destructive, aftermath of an affair.  But what constitutes an affair in the digital age can depend very much on your viewpoint – other than the really obvious example of having a secret, physical and emotional entanglement outside of your relationship with your significant other.

Couples can have difficulty even  agreeing on the definition.  It would seem that behaviour, context and intention are three of the defining factors of micro-cheating.