I see many couples at my practice in East London whose relationship is in trouble following an affair. Often these couples are unsure if they want to continue with the relationship, are unable to see how it would be possible to rebuild trust if they did want the relationship to continue, or can’t figure out how they can end the relationship whilst still co-parenting their children.
Its a good idea not to wait too long before you seek help, to avoid becoming completely entrenched in the difficulties and emotion of the situation. Because we work in a solution-focused way I can help beleagured couples to find their way forward logically and rationally. Up to this point couples have not been able to do this – not suprisingly given the nature of the problem.
Sorting things out in this way gives you the opportunity to really look at what you want and how you can go about achieving it. It allows you to take a breather, from being bogged down and saturated in the difficulties; it’s a good opportunity also to finally sort out any underlying issues that may have been causing long standing difficulties in your partnership.
There is life after an affair.