Affairs – Couples Counselling in East London

11th September 2017By Deborah

I see many couples at my practice in East London whose relationship is in trouble following an affair.  Often these couples are unsure if they want to continue with the relationship, are unable to see how it would be possible to rebuild trust if they did want the relationship to continue, or can’t figure out … Read More

How to stay married by embracing change

2nd May 2017By Deborah

To Stay Married, Embrace Change. Embracing change is the key to staying married, so writes Ada Calhoun (The New York Times, 21st April 2017). Her excellent article cites change as the most common reason for divorce.     

Finding Solutions to Problems – E11, E18 Therapy

14th November 2016By Deborah

Finding Solutions to problems in E11 and E18 When it comes to finding solutions there is no one-size-fits-all.  I work with clients in east London in the Leytonstone (E11) and South Woodford area. Over the course of their therapy sessions with me clients are able to find solutions to their problems that are realistic, and because … Read More

What makes relationships work?

16th June 2014By Deborah

This article describes the essential ingredients which make for contented and long lasting relationships.  Committed, lifelong relationships are underpinned by kindness and generosity.  Read how this works.      

Relationship Advice

8th May 2013By Deborah

I work with many couples who come to see me at various stages of crisis in their relationship, so I found a recent blog post on relationship advice from LifeHacker to be pertinent. The problems central to this relationship failure are typical of those which couples bring to relationship counselling. What I particularly like is … Read More

Saving your Relationship – Masters and Disasters

4th April 2013By Deborah

Dr John Gottman has studied couples for over thirty years and has used his research to  evolve a particular method of working with couples who are experiencing difficulties in their relationships.  You may wish to view this clip, which identifies some of the essential elements which make couple relationships work.    This was an out-take of … Read More

Intimacy

8th March 2013By Deborah

The routines of daily life and the attendant stresses and strains often result in couples losing contact.  They believe they know all there is to know about one another and simply stop listening and talking to each other; intimacy dwindles away.   Intimacy, which is aided by good communication, can be created in simple ways. … Read More

Instances and Exceptions: the times when problems are not so influential

2nd July 2012By Deborah

We argue all the time.  I’m constantly angry.  He never talks.  She always criticises.  I’m always depressed/anxious/stressed.  She/he never contributes.  Our lives are always chaotic.  We have never been happy and contented.  I can’t ever trust him/her again. These are problem statements which come up regularly in therapy.  They are statements which many of us use … Read More

Work: Who Needs It?

1st February 2012By Deborah

Try to define what work really means to you: a greedy mistress,  a familiar ritual, a compelling game, a voracious furnace, a stimulating journey, a necessary evil? Because it can mean any of these things, and contradictory combinations of them, it is no wonder clients often find work a difficult issue to examine in therapy, … Read More