Did you know that slacking online can be productive? How great is that? Productivity, slacking, leisure and work are subjects which frequently crop up in therapy in a number of contexts. They are often accompanied by large dollops of guilt and cries of too much? too little? obsessive? not enough? To the variously afflicted – … Read More
Year: 2013
Brain function – top brain/bottom brain not left brain/right brain
This new research on how our brains function overturns the common theory that we are either predominantly left-brained or right-brained – analytical and logical or artistic and intuitive: http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB10001424052702304410204579139423079198270?mod=trending_now_1
Time Organisation for Stress-free Productivity
Many of my clients are struggling to fit in all their commitments and still find time to enjoy partners, family, friends and leisure pursuits. Since I’ve found it helpful myself I can highly recommend this book, which comes in paperback and kindle format. It’s easy to adapt the central ideas to your particular situation: … Read More
Careers
I see many clients who have issues related to their careers and their working lives. This is a relevant article well worth considering: http://blogs.hbr.org/cs/2013/08/build_a_career_worth_having.html
Social Media: a Pressure Free Holiday?
It’s summer holiday time. Many of us have booked time off. We’re hoping the pressure will be off for a while. A pressure free holiday is on the cards – time to enjoy and re-energise the batteries… Ah, but according to some of my clients, here’s the rub: we now have to decide … Read More
How to measure where you’re at and where you want to be
During solution-focused therapy we use simple tools to measure the extent of a problem or difficulty. This scaling of an issue is useful because a) both the therapist and the client gain an understanding of how things stand, and b) it gives everyone in the room some assurance that they’re communicating well and singing off … Read More
Student Counselling – Online
For some time I have been following various research studies on student counselling at universities. This latest one comes from a study done by the National Union of Students (NUS). It interests me because, despite being a limited study, the points it raises are fairly typical of student counselling services and the comments from readers are also … Read More
Relationship Advice
I work with many couples who come to see me at various stages of crisis in their relationship, so I found a recent blog post on relationship advice from LifeHacker to be pertinent. The problems central to this relationship failure are typical of those which couples bring to relationship counselling. What I particularly like is … Read More
Saving your Relationship – Masters and Disasters
Dr John Gottman has studied couples for over thirty years and has used his research to evolve a particular method of working with couples who are experiencing difficulties in their relationships. You may wish to view this clip, which identifies some of the essential elements which make couple relationships work. This was an out-take of … Read More
Intimacy
The routines of daily life and the attendant stresses and strains often result in couples losing contact. They believe they know all there is to know about one another and simply stop listening and talking to each other; intimacy dwindles away. Intimacy, which is aided by good communication, can be created in simple ways. … Read More